Tips to Help Your Child Leave Home for The First Time
Transitioning from life at home to a more independent life in college can be exciting yet challenging for some students. For most students living on campus near York University, going to college meant leaving home for the very first time. As a parent, there’s a lot you can do to make the transition easier for your child. You may be going through the mixed emotions – feeling proud that your child made it to college but also overwhelmed with fear of letting go. As much as it is sad to see them leave, it’s a part of life that’s very important for your child. Let’s go over a few tips that can help both of you in this major life event.
Encourage your child
It’s very important to convey how proud and excited you are for your child. Talk to them and let them know that you are supportive of this important step. Let your child know that they are doing the right thing by going to college. Ask your child if he/she needs anything from you to make the move easier. Children are different – while some may want to be independent, others may love if you offer them more support while in college.
Help in the actual move
Chances are that your child will need to purchase some stuff before the move. You can help them go through the stuff that they need to buy and ask if you can help. You can even suggest how to move the items to the dorm or York University housing facility. But make sure you don’t impose and take charge of the entire move. Step back and allow your child to take charge.
Allow your child to settle in
Don’t be one of those parents who sticks around in campus or visits all the time after your child has moved in. As soon as you drive your child to campus, give him/her time to settle in. It’s always a good idea to leave as soon as possible so that they can have an opportunity to settle in on their own. Remember to let your child know that you are just a phone call away should they need anything. Also let your child know that you will always be there to support them should they ever feel like coming home.
Pack up a surprise gift
Don’t forget to pick a gift for your child that will remind them that you care and support them fully. It could be an album of their favorite photos or coins for laundry. Don’t overthink it, you probably already know what your child would love.
Set up a call schedule
It’s still important to keep in touch with your child on a regular basis. To make sure you don’t impose, you can set up a specific time for calls. It could be weekly or daily during the first few months. As soon as your child adjusts to life in college, you can make the calls less frequently. You can also plan to visit the York U residence especially if your home is far away. Just make sure you give your child the space they need.